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Riya's avatar

This was absolutely wonderful!

I have always perceived a slow-burning type of love as a more fierce experience in comparison to a situationship (which, btw, I'm compelled to say I wholeheartedly agree with your opinion that adults need to search for a new term). Being able to truly sink into what a human connection is daunting, but incredibly worth it if luck remains on the side of the couple. I am now going to go watch Materialists.

truly enjoyed reading this piece<33

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Evana's avatar

I hope you enjoy Materialists! And thanks a ton for engaging so deeply with the essay

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Chrissy's avatar

u should look into “it’s funny we met on hinge,” it’s a whole ad concept around finding someone on a dating app after meeting IRL!

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Evana's avatar

Sounds right up my alley 🥹

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blandina's avatar

Yes! Yes! Yes!

Love is so mysterious!! How is it possible we can find true and genuine connection with people we never imagined ourselves being with. How is it possible we can find ourselves so fond of people who don’t match our boxes? How is it possible we love and get hurt and continue to love again and again and again!

I think some people view Lucy’s choice in marrying her first love as settling in the movie, but I’ve viewed this act as a narrative circle where the circumstances haven’t changed but the main character’s perspective on love has- like rereading the same book over and over again. Not really because the story changes, but you do.

Thank you so much for writing this! I was trying to verbalize my affections for this movie’s philosophical standpoint on dating and love and I feel like you did it so well💞!

Wishing you love and light <3

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Evana's avatar

🥰🥰🥰

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Sam's avatar

hehe such a fun read, as cringey and horrible some parts of the movie was I did enjoy it and wish there was a bit more too it past the characters and more into the matchmakers magic themselves. Felt like missed potential 😭

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Evana's avatar

I so agree!!

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